A few days ago - on Sunday - I had gotten a text from Jimmy. Asking if I was doing anything - I said no really - he said I need to talk with you and to meet him at his place within an hour. I left the gym, changed out of my stuff and delayed my photoshoot. I didnt know if anything was wrong and I didnt want to have to cut Jimmy short.
I arrived but he was still grocery shopping. So I waited by his neighborhood pond. He honked to let me know he was there and we met up at his place. I helped unload his grocery and sat in the room with the pups.
I asked him what was up - he said he needed clarification. I nodded and said sure. I assumed this would have been about my text to Justin or perhaps my last blog or something. Nope. Instead - apparently he finally found one of his passports and is pretty convinced I dropped it off last Thursday.
I was floored. THANK GOD - I never went by his place that day. That morning - he had gotten in touch with me because he locked himself out. I told him Id try and go by in the afternoon. I ended up having to be at the preschool, got some gas and went straight to DC to meet Cassie Aimee and the kiddies. I had texted him to let him know I had no way of getting to them [the pups]. He said it wasnt a problem. That night - he had asked me if I was sure I didnt come by. I didnt get it and had replied saying, "yeah I already told you I wasnt able". I didnt understand but he later told me my FB page was up on his computer. I had been on my page the other day [Wednesday] when he was napping. But...I didnt think much of it.
TURNS OUT - he thinks I did come by and through his passport behind his bookcase and left.
What doesn't add up - is he locked himself out that day - I dont have a house key. So, I dont understand how I would have done that. Not only that - but the day before - was his court case. We literally got home, I walked pups, I played on computer and w pups - we had sex and we left right away cause he had to meet Josh. So I had ABSOLUTELY no time to come by.
Right after we left each other - he dropped me off - I took my leftovers into Jenn's place and went to meet a friend for a bit - and then partied w friends for the night.
The days before his court - I spent w friends all day and night...aside from Monday - but I didnt come over til 11pm when he had asked me to come spend the night. We literally talked side by side and went right to sleep.
Regardless - he said he didnt find it til Thursday. I looked at him kinda surprised - I asked him why didnt he even tell me he found it? After all this time of blaming me or assuming I did it - and yet, he found it. ONE less thing to blame on me - yet he didnt even feel the need to tell me bc he thought I thought he was going to be upset with me.
I even came over the night prior - saturday - to pick up my wine and stuff. We talked for a bit but he was overstressed so I headed out for my night. Nothing was mentioned or upsetting -- then 12 hours later - you're accusing me of something?!?!
WHAT MAKES NO SENSE AT ALL.... If I had taken that passport - and kept it to 'prevent' him from going out as he says -- why the HELL would I give it back? Let alone - the WEEK of his trip to Atlantic City. That SLIGHTLY defeats the purpose??? If that was my purpose.
I went from shocked to super angry. I realized - I rushed over here, I postponed a shoot - worth 100$ - to deal with THIS SHIT?! To get blamed for 'dropping off a passport' - let alone possessing it!
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I looked him square in the face and told him I didnt HAVE or BRING those passports over there - I hadn't even COME by this place except the TWO times he was HOME and WITH Me in the room.
He then says - his passports got swapped. I didnt understand - apparently he found his older passport and now had his kid one. So, he found both...well there's still one missing - idk the age range of that one though.
He told me he wanted to believe me but it didnt make sense to him. I sat there in disbelief. I LUCKILY hadn't even OFFERED to come take care of the pups cause I didnt want to be in his room without him being there bc Im NOT going to blamed for ANYTHING ever again. Not for the stupid Ipad he lost on the JOB and when I picked him up - he suddenly realized it was missing. Then I get blamed. I WAS THE FUCKING RIDE HOME! And Im blamed...unbelievable.
He goes out drinking - and is missing money - comes home and asks me if I had it. He then takes out his receipt to see he SPENT it. I mean seriously?!
I think this kid underestimates me - if I want something to happen - I'll find a way...But Im not going to sit there and put myself in a situation that would
1. Risk our friendship
2. Take away his trust
3. Have it be so Im the only plausible person to blame
I got extremely upset - I teared up because no matter what I explained or showed or proved - he had no one else to blame but himself - which meant, Id be blamed. My mind had given up on him. I looked at him realizing - we're never going to survive as friends or anything more. In situations - he even ADMITS there's no real way I could have done it - he STILL chooses to blame me. He even tells Justin and Josh that he thinks I do certain things.
He was even convinced I was able to delete numbers off his phone - yet its had its own code key lock since I think July. The ideas he puts into his head - and then his horrible lack of evidence - just leaves me to wonder whats the point anymore.
I gave him two options - after touching on EVERY point - he can either believe me and drop this bullshit once and for all OR he can choose to be convinced I stole and took and hid everything - and never speak to me again. BC Im not doing this anymore or ever again. I cant.
I cant have someone that I thought respected and loved me - look down on me or accuse me of stuff that honestly, doesn't even make sense.
I dont even come into his place with a BAG because I never want him thinking - I did something. Yet - here we are. I dont get his mindset - what we have sex and then what...I ransack the room? Bc suddenly through our sexual bonding - I knew he had his passport hidden in the room?!?!?! OMG...and not only that - but IF I found it, and IF I brought it back, Why the fuck would i swap it back out?!?!?!
And not only that but if he FOUND it Thursday --- and I didnt come over til Saturday evening for only 15minutes TOPS - how the fuck did I get him to close his eyes long enough to find wherever it was, pull out his other passport, switch them and hide the other one? I may be really good at things but I HIGHLY doubt Im capable of fucking magic tricks.
As you can see - Im still super upset. We sat in silence for awhile - and he said he'd choose to believe me but his voice wasnt in agreement. I was furious. I stormed out and refused to get in touch.
I took the day and night to myself. HE had a game that night and I had offered to go but I didnt give a shit anymore. I was so angry...late late late that night - I wanted to text him - apologizing for how emotional I allowed myself to get. But it turned into something longer - so I started emailing him - that became a bit angry...so I held off. Instead - I texted him asking if we could meet up and talk.
I arrived but he was still grocery shopping. So I waited by his neighborhood pond. He honked to let me know he was there and we met up at his place. I helped unload his grocery and sat in the room with the pups.
I asked him what was up - he said he needed clarification. I nodded and said sure. I assumed this would have been about my text to Justin or perhaps my last blog or something. Nope. Instead - apparently he finally found one of his passports and is pretty convinced I dropped it off last Thursday.
I was floored. THANK GOD - I never went by his place that day. That morning - he had gotten in touch with me because he locked himself out. I told him Id try and go by in the afternoon. I ended up having to be at the preschool, got some gas and went straight to DC to meet Cassie Aimee and the kiddies. I had texted him to let him know I had no way of getting to them [the pups]. He said it wasnt a problem. That night - he had asked me if I was sure I didnt come by. I didnt get it and had replied saying, "yeah I already told you I wasnt able". I didnt understand but he later told me my FB page was up on his computer. I had been on my page the other day [Wednesday] when he was napping. But...I didnt think much of it.
TURNS OUT - he thinks I did come by and through his passport behind his bookcase and left.
What doesn't add up - is he locked himself out that day - I dont have a house key. So, I dont understand how I would have done that. Not only that - but the day before - was his court case. We literally got home, I walked pups, I played on computer and w pups - we had sex and we left right away cause he had to meet Josh. So I had ABSOLUTELY no time to come by.
Right after we left each other - he dropped me off - I took my leftovers into Jenn's place and went to meet a friend for a bit - and then partied w friends for the night.
The days before his court - I spent w friends all day and night...aside from Monday - but I didnt come over til 11pm when he had asked me to come spend the night. We literally talked side by side and went right to sleep.
Regardless - he said he didnt find it til Thursday. I looked at him kinda surprised - I asked him why didnt he even tell me he found it? After all this time of blaming me or assuming I did it - and yet, he found it. ONE less thing to blame on me - yet he didnt even feel the need to tell me bc he thought I thought he was going to be upset with me.
I even came over the night prior - saturday - to pick up my wine and stuff. We talked for a bit but he was overstressed so I headed out for my night. Nothing was mentioned or upsetting -- then 12 hours later - you're accusing me of something?!?!
WHAT MAKES NO SENSE AT ALL.... If I had taken that passport - and kept it to 'prevent' him from going out as he says -- why the HELL would I give it back? Let alone - the WEEK of his trip to Atlantic City. That SLIGHTLY defeats the purpose??? If that was my purpose.
I went from shocked to super angry. I realized - I rushed over here, I postponed a shoot - worth 100$ - to deal with THIS SHIT?! To get blamed for 'dropping off a passport' - let alone possessing it!
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I looked him square in the face and told him I didnt HAVE or BRING those passports over there - I hadn't even COME by this place except the TWO times he was HOME and WITH Me in the room.
He then says - his passports got swapped. I didnt understand - apparently he found his older passport and now had his kid one. So, he found both...well there's still one missing - idk the age range of that one though.
He told me he wanted to believe me but it didnt make sense to him. I sat there in disbelief. I LUCKILY hadn't even OFFERED to come take care of the pups cause I didnt want to be in his room without him being there bc Im NOT going to blamed for ANYTHING ever again. Not for the stupid Ipad he lost on the JOB and when I picked him up - he suddenly realized it was missing. Then I get blamed. I WAS THE FUCKING RIDE HOME! And Im blamed...unbelievable.
He goes out drinking - and is missing money - comes home and asks me if I had it. He then takes out his receipt to see he SPENT it. I mean seriously?!
I think this kid underestimates me - if I want something to happen - I'll find a way...But Im not going to sit there and put myself in a situation that would
1. Risk our friendship
2. Take away his trust
3. Have it be so Im the only plausible person to blame
I got extremely upset - I teared up because no matter what I explained or showed or proved - he had no one else to blame but himself - which meant, Id be blamed. My mind had given up on him. I looked at him realizing - we're never going to survive as friends or anything more. In situations - he even ADMITS there's no real way I could have done it - he STILL chooses to blame me. He even tells Justin and Josh that he thinks I do certain things.
He was even convinced I was able to delete numbers off his phone - yet its had its own code key lock since I think July. The ideas he puts into his head - and then his horrible lack of evidence - just leaves me to wonder whats the point anymore.
I gave him two options - after touching on EVERY point - he can either believe me and drop this bullshit once and for all OR he can choose to be convinced I stole and took and hid everything - and never speak to me again. BC Im not doing this anymore or ever again. I cant.
I cant have someone that I thought respected and loved me - look down on me or accuse me of stuff that honestly, doesn't even make sense.
I dont even come into his place with a BAG because I never want him thinking - I did something. Yet - here we are. I dont get his mindset - what we have sex and then what...I ransack the room? Bc suddenly through our sexual bonding - I knew he had his passport hidden in the room?!?!?! OMG...and not only that - but IF I found it, and IF I brought it back, Why the fuck would i swap it back out?!?!?!
And not only that but if he FOUND it Thursday --- and I didnt come over til Saturday evening for only 15minutes TOPS - how the fuck did I get him to close his eyes long enough to find wherever it was, pull out his other passport, switch them and hide the other one? I may be really good at things but I HIGHLY doubt Im capable of fucking magic tricks.
As you can see - Im still super upset. We sat in silence for awhile - and he said he'd choose to believe me but his voice wasnt in agreement. I was furious. I stormed out and refused to get in touch.
I took the day and night to myself. HE had a game that night and I had offered to go but I didnt give a shit anymore. I was so angry...late late late that night - I wanted to text him - apologizing for how emotional I allowed myself to get. But it turned into something longer - so I started emailing him - that became a bit angry...so I held off. Instead - I texted him asking if we could meet up and talk.
